Being 40-something has not proven to be easy. After continuing along for 20+ years, I still do not have an instructional guide. Just when I think I have it figured out, the Universe says, “nope, let’s try this instead.”
Originally, this blog was my way to keep swimming. I believed that by sharing my ups and downs, I could help others who were struggling with the same thing. Even if I only helped one or two people, that is better than helping no one. My struggles had to be for more than just me and my family.
Two years later, my struggles were just for me and my family. Quite honestly, it’s hard to write while struggling because it sounds like therapy, and I found myself in extremely negative space. No one wants to share that with folks.
It’s now five years later, and life seems to be “rebalancing” so I thought I’d attempt to share again. In the spirit of the site title, we will look at making decisions and not just freezing in a state of inaction, especially under moments of duress. In an attempt to fend off anxiety, we are going to create a DOVOLUTION every-single-day:
- DO something to IMPROVE you.
- DO something FOR SOMEONE ELSE without expectation.
- WORK towards a GOAL.
DO something to IMPROVE you
For many of us, this sounds like a no-brainer but it really isn’t. Do you work yourself ragged, or do you rest when your body signals? Do you try to eat healthy? Exercise? Have regular Dr visits? Basically, are you taking care of the vessel you have been given?
Maybe you take great physical care of yourself. What about mentally? Do you talk to friends or family and share your thoughts? Do you rest and take mental breaks? How many friends do you have? How do you relieve stress?
Now let’s go a step further. How do you grow? Do you take any classes? Can you obtain a certificate or attend training to improve your career or personal life? Do you have any hobbies?
DO something FOR SOMEONE ELSE without expectation
Lots of folks prefer to do for others. What about you? Do you like to do nice or helpful things for other people? Do you like to do them without recognition or expectation of something in return? That’s my favorite way personally.
As a mom and wife, I tend to do thoughtful things almost daily. While that is awesome and would be an easy way to check this box, I need to do something new. This is a DOVOLUTION remember. We are being ACTIVE, not PASSIVE.
WORK towards a GOAL
You might be asking, how is this different from improving myself? Improving yourself is more about self-care. This is different. Creating a goal moves you forward.
- What do you want to achieve?
- When do you want to achieve it by?
- How will you know you are successful?
- Why do you want to do this?
- Who can help/support you during this process?
What else can you expect to see on this blog? Hopefully lots of REAL-LIFE! We will set goals, explore self-care, paint, have fun, cry, write poetry, and more. Most importantly, we will see GROWTH.
Come grow with us. We plan to grow like weeds.